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Sunday, March 13, 2005

The Bones and The bogeyman In the Closet.

The Bones and The bogeyman In the Closet.

Sometimes people get pissed off by the continuous ranting sessions showered upon them by their friends.
Sometimes people don't listen to their friends.

Sometimes I get pissed off by the continuous ranting sessions showered upon me by my friends. Sometimes I don't listen.
Sometimes I don't even let them speak.

And it's only until things get really bad do people speak up and let you know what's troubling them.

By then.
Things might have gotten too far.
It could have been too late.

But we're humans.
Humans for a reason.
We are imperfect.
We all have our imperfections.
Different ones that's all.

Personally, I think that people don't tell even their closest friends what's bothering them purely out of consideration for the other party.

I mean.
Who ever enjoyed bring the rain-maker in the party?
Same applies towards relationships be it kinship, friendship or any other forms of relationships.
Who would ever want to darken the skies of an otherwise picture-perfect relationship?

And yes .
I do know that if someone wants you to know about something, he/she would tell you about it him/herself . Maybe not immediately, but slowly and surely...he/she will tell you about it .
If you care enough about them that is.

Then again that works differently for different people I guess.

Also, have you wondered why are we always doing things that we don't like to do ?
Chasing borrowed dreams ?
Fufiling all the wrong hopes?

Many people have expressed regret at choosing a course of study or career in which they had zero interest in. But they went ahead with it anyway for reasons such as "because Mummy and Daddy say Gahmen say it's good and because Uncle So and So's son did it, and now he's making a lot of money". And many have said they now feel trapped and depressed.

That was quoted from a column I read this morning by Collin Goh, the editor of Singapore's most popular satirical humour website Talkingcock.com.

Singaporeans, it seems, have a high propensity for self-suppression. According to Professor David Olsen, the administrator of the survey , the Singaporeans' conundrum may be sttributable to a cultural reluctance to express their real feelings, coupled with an aversion to confrontation.
In other words, plain old kiasu-ism , and its even plainer sister, kiasi-ism.

There are those who don't confront those they're buay song with cos' they know that won't change anything.

There are those who don't say anything when we see some lame kid pointing a laser at the movie screen during a movie.

There are those who pick a dream from influences of the media, our parents, our relatives, or what our friends think.

Strange how much we hide from others and ourselves for the sake of peace isn't it?
Our real dreams, our actual hopes, our true selves even.

Even if peace is achieved exteriorly, does that mean that internal peace is secured too?

Your mama told you to NEVER bottle up your feelings.
Your sickening pastoral care tutor is continuously reminding you of the importance of 'communicating with your peers' [as much as you don't want to listen to that, it gets drilled in along with the whole load of pastoral crap].

So then why are there bones in out closets then?
And the funnier thing is as the days fly by, the bones accumulate until one day you go home finding the bogeyman using the bones to choke your dearest kitty.

What I'm driving at [hopefully ramming into ur numbskulls ], is that we're now at the crossroads of our lives....make sure you make that 'YOU' decision....and in the process of it....don't bottle up. Cos' if you do...how are we your 'zhu peng gou yous' [pig and dog friends] ever gonna know what's troubling you? How are we then able to help you?

Anyway.
Notice I didn't say the 'RIGHT' decision.
That's cos' I know that the 'RIGHT' decision is not always right.
And that the 'WRONG' decision is not always 'WRONG'.

Therefore , make the 'YOU' decision.
Don't let what 'they' say get to you.
Cos' as long as you have the heart for it....have 'yourself' with you...
I believe that your belief in yourself shall prevail and succeed you!

As the SAF says, "Kah kah lai! Meng kia, long tio ooh sia!!" ( Go boldly ! Don't be scared!If you bump into something, it'll make a noise! )

lol~

*ps. I know what I want now.

I've found my call.

I want to help people.

Hope that's 'ME' and not 'RIGHT'.

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